The Marriage Jar (Video)

A Couples Counselling Tip:
The 'Marriage Jar' is a simple concept, designed by Australian Couples Counsellor Ghita Andersen, and it is amazing how this simple idea can adjust one's behaviour every day. Basically, it works like this: When you are first together, the metaphorical love jar is full. As time goes by, the jar empties. For every kind gesture, kiss, supportive comment, intimate moment, etcetera, two marbles go in. For every sarcastic remark, episode of not listening or avoidance of connection, five marbles come out.

Moreover, it is a great idea to make a real “Marriage Jar” and to place it in your home to remind you about the importance of your interactions. This jar, placed somewhere very prominent (like the kitchen, lounge or bedroom), will remind you on a subliminal basis to make sure that your positive interactions far outweight your negative one's.

​The marriage jar needs to be replenished regularly. It should be cherished and fed daily so that it overflows and is not in deficit. It is a physical manifestation of the 5:2 ratio. It will keep your marriage communication on track inbetween therapy top-up sessions; just like happy photos of you in your home remind you of the love and intimate moments you share.

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(The ratio idea was given to Ghita by her by one of her favourite tutors - Dr Jodie Bradham, at Bond University. The subject was Love, Sex and Relationships.)

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