Gottman Couples Package
*This package is designed for committed couples. Please do not book this package for Couples Therapy if you have already separated, there is any family violence or one party is in doubt and may not complete the course (No refunds on unused hours). More terms and conditions below.
The highly recommended techniques used for marriage therapy were designed by John Gottman - world renowned relationship researcher with over 40 years experience. More info....
Ideal as a first package for couples, the Gottman 3 Step Package consists of:
The Gottman package must completed in consecutive order:
NB: Clients are always encouraged to do top-up sessions afterwards as required.
The highly recommended techniques used for marriage therapy were designed by John Gottman - world renowned relationship researcher with over 40 years experience. More info....
Ideal as a first package for couples, the Gottman 3 Step Package consists of:
- 2 Hour Couples Intensive (Diagnostic and info gathering)
- 2 Hour-Long Individual Counselling Sessions
- 2 Hour Couples Intensive (Repair strategies and exercises)
The Gottman package must completed in consecutive order:
- First 2 Hour Couples Intensive
- Individual Sessions
- Second 2 Hour Couples Intensive Repair
- Commitment
- Trust
- Managing conflict
- Making life dreams come true
- Creating shared meaning
- Building love maps
- Sharing fondness and admiration
- Turning towards and not away from each other
- Positive perspective
NB: Clients are always encouraged to do top-up sessions afterwards as required.
- Special Package Price = $900 - Save $100
Terms and Conditions:
- PACKAGES MUST BE PURCHASED BY PHONE
- No refunds on unused hours: Eg: Client walkouts, Client Break-ups, Separations
- The consecutive order of the package is vital to it's success
- 24 Hour Cancellation Policy
- Valid for 6 months from purchase
Skills You Will Learn:
Lessons Learned in the Repair Session (Workshop 2):
Example of Active Listening Exercise for Couples
Greg: I have absolutely had it with George today! Nothing I say to him seems to make a difference to him and I’m tired of feeling like I am talking to a wall! (Expressing emotions, frustration and anger. Using “I” statements to claim his own emotions.)
Alisha: Sounds like you are really frustrated with George, and pretty upset too. What are you trying to talk to him about? (Reflecting back what Greg has said to her and asking for more information – showing interest.)
Greg: Yes, I am totally frustrated with him! I have told him several times today that I need this order completed no later than tomorrow because a client has been waiting on it and he just keeps blowing me off. (Verifies that Alisha received the message clearly and expanding on his feelings and the reasons behind them.)
Alisha: I’m sorry it has been so frustrating. (Again verifying that she is receiving Greg’s message.)
Ghita's Notes:
Rather than offering solutions, Alisha is instead just offering support and validation to Greg. A common mistake is trying to fix our spouse's problem. Furthermore, when we can't fix things we can get defensive and back off, or things may escalate into fights.
The use of reflective or active listening helps Greg to feel heard and understood. He may not be looking for solutions, so much as needing to be heard. Sometimes solutions come afterwards, and sometimes just being listened to is all a partner needs.
As the conversation continues, each spouse will take turns offering their own message and letting it be verified by their partner before contributing their own message. This form of communication takes more effort and may even take longer because it is “active” and does not allow us to jump forward to think about our own contribution until we have taken the time to verify the message we are receiving. However, the tremendous benefit from using active listening as a communication skill is that it avoids misunderstandings, improves personal responsibility for emotions, allows for clearer messages to be sent and improves empathy.
Note: Packages are not available on the booking portal (0nly via phone) due to the multiple hours - which need to be scheduled and tracked by your therapist.
- Fair fighting rules
- Validating each other
- Listening and paraphrasing (Active or Reflective Listening)
- Shutting down arguments
- Using partner's love language for benefit
- Turning towards not away
- And more..
Example of Active Listening Exercise for Couples
Greg: I have absolutely had it with George today! Nothing I say to him seems to make a difference to him and I’m tired of feeling like I am talking to a wall! (Expressing emotions, frustration and anger. Using “I” statements to claim his own emotions.)
Alisha: Sounds like you are really frustrated with George, and pretty upset too. What are you trying to talk to him about? (Reflecting back what Greg has said to her and asking for more information – showing interest.)
Greg: Yes, I am totally frustrated with him! I have told him several times today that I need this order completed no later than tomorrow because a client has been waiting on it and he just keeps blowing me off. (Verifies that Alisha received the message clearly and expanding on his feelings and the reasons behind them.)
Alisha: I’m sorry it has been so frustrating. (Again verifying that she is receiving Greg’s message.)
Ghita's Notes:
Rather than offering solutions, Alisha is instead just offering support and validation to Greg. A common mistake is trying to fix our spouse's problem. Furthermore, when we can't fix things we can get defensive and back off, or things may escalate into fights.
The use of reflective or active listening helps Greg to feel heard and understood. He may not be looking for solutions, so much as needing to be heard. Sometimes solutions come afterwards, and sometimes just being listened to is all a partner needs.
As the conversation continues, each spouse will take turns offering their own message and letting it be verified by their partner before contributing their own message. This form of communication takes more effort and may even take longer because it is “active” and does not allow us to jump forward to think about our own contribution until we have taken the time to verify the message we are receiving. However, the tremendous benefit from using active listening as a communication skill is that it avoids misunderstandings, improves personal responsibility for emotions, allows for clearer messages to be sent and improves empathy.
Note: Packages are not available on the booking portal (0nly via phone) due to the multiple hours - which need to be scheduled and tracked by your therapist.
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