Valentines Package (Gottman Style) Couples Counselling Intensive
★★★★★ Couples Counselling Testimonial: "Since seeing you last week things have been great and it looks like we are back on track. We have reconnected amazingly over the weekend. Thank you." Ryan and Kimberly, (Couples Counselling, Elanora).
When things are not perfect in your relationships, it can be daunting to consider help, and scary to admit to friends and family. However, with expert counselling and coaching you can stop fighting and be connected. Be Lovers Again! …Be Best Friends Again …Be Happy Again!
If you are both still committed to your relationship this package is for you. This package combines the best of the best Marriage Therapy tools including Gottman methods, Heart versus Ego (Andersen), Esther Perel, Narrative Therapy and the 5 Love Languages. These methods have 45 years of research behind them from the world's best Couples Counsellors.
Ideal as a first package for couples, the 3 Step Package consists of:
The package must completed in consecutive order:
If you are both still committed to your relationship this package is for you. This package combines the best of the best Marriage Therapy tools including Gottman methods, Heart versus Ego (Andersen), Esther Perel, Narrative Therapy and the 5 Love Languages. These methods have 45 years of research behind them from the world's best Couples Counsellors.
Ideal as a first package for couples, the 3 Step Package consists of:
- 2 Hour Couples Intensive (Diagnostic and info gathering)
- 2 x 1 hour Individual Counselling Sessions
- 2 Hour Couples Intensive (Repair Strategies and Communication Exercises)
The package must completed in consecutive order:
- First 2 Hour Couples Intensive
- Individual Sessions
- Second 2 Hour Couples Intensive Repair
- Commitment
- Trust
- Managing conflict
- Making life dreams come true
- Creating shared meaning
- Building love maps
- Sharing fondness and admiration
- Turning towards and not away from each other
- Positive perspective
Skills You Will Learn:
Lessons Learned in the Repair Session (Workshop 2):
Terms and Conditions:
NB: Clients are always encouraged to do top-up sessions afterwards as required.
- Fair fighting rules
- Validating each other
- Listening and paraphrasing (Active or Reflective Listening)
- Shutting down arguments
- Using partner's love language for benefit
- Turning towards not away
- Reading each other's motives realistically
- and more..
Terms and Conditions:
- Please chat to Ghita Andersen before booking this package to be sure this package suits your circumstances
- No refunds on unused hours once begun: Eg: Client walkouts, Client Break-ups, Separations
- The consecutive order of the package is vital to it's success
- 24 Hours notice of postponements: 24 Hour Cancellation Policy
- Clients select initial 2 hour session on the booking portal, after which the therapist has to book you in for consecutive appointments so that they can track the hours used
- Jan/ Feb 2023 Only: Valid for 3 months from purchase date
- Do not book if there is any family violence - including chronic verbal abuse, intimidation, financial control
- Available Online Only
NB: Clients are always encouraged to do top-up sessions afterwards as required.
- Special Package Price = $900 - Save $100
★★★★★ Couples Counselling Testimonial: "I gained a lot in only one session. I am so grateful for your help, it stops me thinking and reacting without perspective. We are seeing great benefits." R. Murphy (Couples Counselling, Reedy Creek).
★★★★★ Text Testimonial: Marriage Counselling:
'My psychologist recommended you as some of her clients had done couples counselling and said that you were very direct and got straight into doing the work of unpacking the issues. I thought that was just what we needed for our situation. We didn't want the type of approach that would take weeks to make any progress. Thank you so much Ghita.' - Angela (Currumbin).
★★★★★ Feedback Testimonial Marriage Counselling 2022
We had been to Couples Counselling before with another counsellor. We felt we were being sold a package last time rather than doing the work, so we did not achieve much. I was convinced that we were separating and it was too late. This session was very different. Ghita nailed our problem and made us negotiate. After many years of arguing over the same thing, she showed us how to do deals. We should have done a pre-marital agreement long ago. I can see that now. I was of the mindset to leave, but after the two hour couples intensive it turned around for us. Thank you Ghita. - J & A Tovey. (Hope Island Gold Coast)
Recommended Reading Before Booking (Both Partners):
Family Violence Screening: Note Couples Counselling is Not Appropriate for Abusive Relationships:
Please do not book this package or Couples Therapy if there is any family violence or one party is in doubt and may not complete the course (No refunds on unused hours). *More terms and conditions listed above.
Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. Please secure a babysitter well in advance. If you do bring children/ babies with you your appointment may be cancelled and charged for. Try booking a video session if you have trouble finding a sitter,
Saving Marriages Since 2014
Ghita Andersen (B.Soc.Sci: Psych & Coun; Grad Cert FDR) is a professionally trained Counsellor and an Federally Accredited Family Dispute Resolution Mediator. Passionate about helping people and regarded as one of the most direct Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast, Ghita will get straight into problem solving. Ghita works from her Currumbin home location and has weekend and after-hours appointments available. Expect to do some work from the first hour! If you have any questions please call Ghita before booking the package on 0439888070.
Please do not book this package or Couples Therapy if there is any family violence or one party is in doubt and may not complete the course (No refunds on unused hours). *More terms and conditions listed above.
Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. Please secure a babysitter well in advance. If you do bring children/ babies with you your appointment may be cancelled and charged for. Try booking a video session if you have trouble finding a sitter,
Saving Marriages Since 2014
Ghita Andersen (B.Soc.Sci: Psych & Coun; Grad Cert FDR) is a professionally trained Counsellor and an Federally Accredited Family Dispute Resolution Mediator. Passionate about helping people and regarded as one of the most direct Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast, Ghita will get straight into problem solving. Ghita works from her Currumbin home location and has weekend and after-hours appointments available. Expect to do some work from the first hour! If you have any questions please call Ghita before booking the package on 0439888070.
Transcript from Active Listening Exercise (Gottman Method):
Greg: I have absolutely had it with George today! Nothing I say to him seems to make a difference to him and I’m tired of feeling like I am talking to a wall! (Expressing emotions, frustration and anger. Using “I” statements to claim his own emotions.)
Alisha: Sounds like you are really frustrated with George, and pretty upset too. What are you trying to talk to him about? (Reflecting back what Greg has said to her and asking for more information – showing interest.)
Greg: Yes, I am totally frustrated with him! I have told him several times today that I need this order completed no later than tomorrow because a client has been waiting on it and he just keeps blowing me off. (Verifies that Alisha received the message clearly and expanding on his feelings and the reasons behind them.)
Alisha: I’m sorry it has been so frustrating. (Again verifying that she is receiving Greg’s message.)
Ghita's Notes:
Rather than offering solutions, Alisha could instead just offer support and validation to Greg. A common mistake is trying to fix our spouse's problem. Furthermore, when we can't fix things we can get defensive and back off, or things may escalate into fights.
The use of reflective or active listening helps Greg to feel heard and understood. He may not be looking for solutions, so much as needing to be heard. Sometimes solutions come afterwards, and sometimes just being listened to is all a partner needs.
As the conversation continues, each spouse will take turns offering their own message and letting it be verified by their partner before contributing their own message. This form of communication takes more effort and may even take longer because it is “active” and does not allow us to jump forward to think about our own contribution until we have taken the time to verify the message we are receiving. However, the tremendous benefit from using active listening as a communication skill is that it avoids misunderstandings, improves personal responsibility for emotions, allows for clearer messages to be sent and improves empathy.
Greg: I have absolutely had it with George today! Nothing I say to him seems to make a difference to him and I’m tired of feeling like I am talking to a wall! (Expressing emotions, frustration and anger. Using “I” statements to claim his own emotions.)
Alisha: Sounds like you are really frustrated with George, and pretty upset too. What are you trying to talk to him about? (Reflecting back what Greg has said to her and asking for more information – showing interest.)
Greg: Yes, I am totally frustrated with him! I have told him several times today that I need this order completed no later than tomorrow because a client has been waiting on it and he just keeps blowing me off. (Verifies that Alisha received the message clearly and expanding on his feelings and the reasons behind them.)
Alisha: I’m sorry it has been so frustrating. (Again verifying that she is receiving Greg’s message.)
Ghita's Notes:
Rather than offering solutions, Alisha could instead just offer support and validation to Greg. A common mistake is trying to fix our spouse's problem. Furthermore, when we can't fix things we can get defensive and back off, or things may escalate into fights.
The use of reflective or active listening helps Greg to feel heard and understood. He may not be looking for solutions, so much as needing to be heard. Sometimes solutions come afterwards, and sometimes just being listened to is all a partner needs.
As the conversation continues, each spouse will take turns offering their own message and letting it be verified by their partner before contributing their own message. This form of communication takes more effort and may even take longer because it is “active” and does not allow us to jump forward to think about our own contribution until we have taken the time to verify the message we are receiving. However, the tremendous benefit from using active listening as a communication skill is that it avoids misunderstandings, improves personal responsibility for emotions, allows for clearer messages to be sent and improves empathy.
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