'Ghita was absolutely warm and welcoming, would definitely recommend her intensive three step package, it has saved our marriage.' - Nicole
3 Step Package (Gottman Method)
★★★★★ 5 Star Google Review: Marriage Counselling: 3 Step Gottman Package 2023:
Ghita provided real strategies that can be implemented to prevent conflict and more empathy within our relationships. We were able to be truthful and honest within ourselves from better self reflection and then she gave us the tools to be able to communicate our needs effectively. We both learnt how to actively listen to one another and remember the other person's needs are different. Ghita was absolutely warm and welcoming, would definitely recommend her intensive 3 Step Program, it has saved our marriage. - Nicole Eggleton (Coomera).
Unpacking the Issues and Repairing:
Are you struggling with arguments that never seem to get resolved? Are you both talking, but no one is listening? Do you feel lonely, sad or frustrated in your relationship?
If you are serious about getting marriage counselling/ couples therapy, and both still committed to your relationship, then this package is for you. This package combines the best of the best Marriage Therapy tools including Gottman methods, Carl Rogers, Heart versus Ego (Andersen), Esther Perel, Experiential Family Therapy (Satir), NLP, and the 5 Love Languages (Chapman). These methods have half a century of research behind them from the World's Best Couples Counsellors, Relationship Scientists and Psychologists.
Consequently, with the expert coaching you will find in this workshop, you can stop fighting and be connected... Be Lovers Again! …Be Best Friends Again …Be Happy Again!
3 Step Package: $900 - Save $220
The 3 Step Package consists of:
Why Choose a Package?
There is a Deeper Dive into the key relationship issues the couple experiences.
The costs for intensive sessions are equivalent to the benefits of the weekly sessions, but they save you time and allow you to heal your relationship sooner. Acting sooner and promptly rather than leaving relationship issues to continue for a long time will save the high emotional and potentially high financial costs of a broken relationship, heartful marriage, fractured family or separation and divorce.
It’s an investment in your relationship, marriage and family. It’s a mutual gift to each other and your children. What else is more important in life?
Package One in consecutive order:
Terms and Conditions of Discounted Package:
Please read our terms and conditions before purchasing. By booking this special, you agree to our terms.
If you are serious about getting marriage counselling/ couples therapy, and both still committed to your relationship, then this package is for you. This package combines the best of the best Marriage Therapy tools including Gottman methods, Carl Rogers, Heart versus Ego (Andersen), Esther Perel, Experiential Family Therapy (Satir), NLP, and the 5 Love Languages (Chapman). These methods have half a century of research behind them from the World's Best Couples Counsellors, Relationship Scientists and Psychologists.
Consequently, with the expert coaching you will find in this workshop, you can stop fighting and be connected... Be Lovers Again! …Be Best Friends Again …Be Happy Again!
3 Step Package: $900 - Save $220
The 3 Step Package consists of:
- 2 Hour Couples Intensive: Diagnostic and Info Gathering (Unpacking the Relationship Issues)
- 2 x 1 hour Back to Back Individual Counselling Sessions (Understanding Individual Triggers and Family of Origin Conflict Resolution)
- 2 Hour Couples Intensive Communication Workshop (Repair Strategies and Communication: Active Listening Exercise)
Why Choose a Package?
There is a Deeper Dive into the key relationship issues the couple experiences.
The costs for intensive sessions are equivalent to the benefits of the weekly sessions, but they save you time and allow you to heal your relationship sooner. Acting sooner and promptly rather than leaving relationship issues to continue for a long time will save the high emotional and potentially high financial costs of a broken relationship, heartful marriage, fractured family or separation and divorce.
It’s an investment in your relationship, marriage and family. It’s a mutual gift to each other and your children. What else is more important in life?
Package One in consecutive order:
- First 2 Hour Couples Intensive: Ghita will diagnose and unpack the issues in the relationship. This is an information gathering session. There may be a lot of questions and reality checking. (Checking for the 4 Horsemen: Gottman, Understanding Gender Currencies: Perel.) Be prepared to be open and honest and do not minimise anything.
- Individual Sessions (Usually back to back): Each partner spends an hour with Ghita looking at what they are bringing into the relationship from old relationships or upbringing which are sabotaging the harmony of the union. Methods: Narrative, NLP and Art Therapy Exercise: Here we explore the sneaky mechanisms used by the Ego to divide and separate the couple. (*Usually a sense of hope and a new united front come out of these sessions)
- 2 Hour Intensive Communication Repair: Active Listening Exercise: In the second, two hour intensive session, comes the repair and communication. This intensive workshop will coach you and your partner in Active Listening (Carl Rogers). Each partner has a turn at speaking and listening. Most partners use a recent complaint or argument for their exercise topic and this is resolved.
- Listening to Listen, not to Respond
- Managing and De-escalating Conflict
- Validating Each Other
- Speaking Needs Clearly
- Avoiding Ego, Defensiveness and Your Story
- Creating Trust and Safety
- Turning Towards and Not Away
Terms and Conditions of Discounted Package:
Please read our terms and conditions before purchasing. By booking this special, you agree to our terms.
- Full deposit required upon booking (Credit card required). Not available in session
- Clients select first 2 hour intensive session on the booking portal, after which the therapist has to book you in for the final appointments so that they can track the hours used
- No refunds on unused hours once begun: Eg: Client walkouts, Client Break-ups, Separations
- The consecutive order of the package is vital to it's success
- There is no guarantee that your Health Fund will rebate couples counselling. We do not have affiliations with any particular health fund as there are so many. Please check with your provider
- 7 Days Notice for Cancellations: Cancellation Policies
- Valid 3 months from purchase.
Methods Used:
Gottman Marriage Therapy (John and Julie Gottman, USA) - The Sound Relationship House/ 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse, Turning Towards not away, Fair Fighting Rules: Gottman Method
Plus:
“Marathon sessions get so much momentum. Couples are so focussed on their relationship that they really move through interventions and process attachment injuries much quicker” – Julie Gottman
About Your Therapist
Ghita Andersen (B.Soc.Sci: Psych & Coun; Grad Cert FDR) is a professionally trained Counsellor and an Federally Accredited Family Dispute Resolution Mediator. Passionate about helping people and regarded as one of the most effective Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast, Ghita uses a combination of methods designed to help clients to honestly express their needs in a safe, friendly environment. Ghita is known for her direct approach to problem solving and she will get to the heart of matters quickly. Expect to do some work! (Currumbin location only).
How Much Have You Invested in Your Relationship?
If you are considering Couples Counselling, it may be the best investment you ever make in your relationship. Please read our happy stories on our Reviews and Testimonials page...
So, before you book with anyone else, do yourself a favour and have a quick, no obligation chat with Ghita.
Please feel free to text Ghita for a Free 10 Minute Call-Back on 0439 888 070.
Gottman Marriage Therapy (John and Julie Gottman, USA) - The Sound Relationship House/ 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse, Turning Towards not away, Fair Fighting Rules: Gottman Method
Plus:
- Carl Rogers - Active / Reflective Listening (USA) - How to Complain Constructively, How to be Heard/ Listen Actively
- Family Dispute Resolution (Australia, UK & NZ) De-escalating Conflict and Stating Your Needs, Objective Rather Than Subjective (Removing Emotions)
- Experiential Family Therapy (Virginia Satir): The dynamics of families.
- Esther Perel Methods (Belgium) - Infidelity (Why it Happens), The Gender Currencies, Motivations of Men and Women
- 5 Love Languages (Gary Chapman, USA) You and Your Partner's Love Languages: The 5: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch.
- Ghita Andersen: Heart versus Ego Method (Australia) - Negotiating Marital Agreements and Pre-Marital Contracts, The Relationship Triangle Concept, Codewords for Couples, Eye Gazing Exercise, Acting from Heart Not Ego: Benefit of Doubt, Arguing with Your Monkey Chatter. Heart Versus Ego Pre-Marriage Preparation Course
- Neuro-Linguistic Programming NLP (Richard Bandler, John Grinder, USA) - The Language Influence: How to Talk to Your Spouse, How to Reframe.
“Marathon sessions get so much momentum. Couples are so focussed on their relationship that they really move through interventions and process attachment injuries much quicker” – Julie Gottman
About Your Therapist
Ghita Andersen (B.Soc.Sci: Psych & Coun; Grad Cert FDR) is a professionally trained Counsellor and an Federally Accredited Family Dispute Resolution Mediator. Passionate about helping people and regarded as one of the most effective Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast, Ghita uses a combination of methods designed to help clients to honestly express their needs in a safe, friendly environment. Ghita is known for her direct approach to problem solving and she will get to the heart of matters quickly. Expect to do some work! (Currumbin location only).
How Much Have You Invested in Your Relationship?
If you are considering Couples Counselling, it may be the best investment you ever make in your relationship. Please read our happy stories on our Reviews and Testimonials page...
So, before you book with anyone else, do yourself a favour and have a quick, no obligation chat with Ghita.
Please feel free to text Ghita for a Free 10 Minute Call-Back on 0439 888 070.
Select 'Package One: 3 Step Gottman Package' under Couples Counselling on the booking system.
Did you know? Our One Day Saturday Intensive Retreat is the 3 Step Gottman Package in a day!
Did you know? Our One Day Saturday Intensive Retreat is the 3 Step Gottman Package in a day!
More Success Stories:
★★★★★ Testimonial: 5 Weeks Couples Therapy Package 2023:
'Truthfully, I was ready to give up. Things were so bad. Since the five week program, we have nothing to fight about. The other day my husband used the code word 'Pineapple' to share something about his childhood: I stopped and listened without judgement - and I was fully present. Normally, I would half listen, avoid feelings and get defensive when he got frustrated. That would result in a whole day of ill feelings and sulking on both sides. The conflict would start with such small things. This has really changed how we see each other's triggers and motivations. We have never been so close. We don't take things so personally. We are stronger and we make time for each other.' - Suzie van de Schraaf (Currumbin)
★★★★★ Google Review: 5 Weeks Couples Therapy Package 2024
'What a turn around!! My wife and I came to Ghita with very different communication skills. We were feeling EXTREMELY defeated in our marriage and were desperately seeking direction.
After just 5 sessions our communication skills are in a place we didn’t know were possible.
It’s been about a month since our sessions and our marriage is still becoming stronger and stronger every day. Ghita is an amazing human. She is smart, professional and extremely passionate about her work.
10 out of 10 recommend!' - Jason Eichenburger (Northern Rivers)
★★★★★ Feedback Testimonial Marriage Counselling Intensive 2022
We had been to Couples Counselling before with another counsellor. We felt we were being sold a package last time rather than doing the work, so we did not achieve much. I was convinced that we were separating and it was too late. This session was very different. Ghita nailed our problem and made us negotiate. After many years of arguing over the same thing, she showed us how to do deals. We should have done a pre-marital agreement long ago. I can see that now. I was of the mindset to leave, but after the two hour couples intensive it turned around for us. Thank you Ghita. - J & A Tovey. (Hope Island, Gold Coast)
"What I appreciated about Ghita was that she kept things light-hearted. It was daunting just attending couples therapy for me at first." - Tom (Burleigh)
Transcript from Active Listening Exercise (Step 3) (Carl Rogers Method):
Greg: I have absolutely had it with George today! Nothing I say to him seems to make a difference to him and I’m tired of feeling like I am talking to a wall! (Expressing emotions, frustration and anger. Using “I” statements to claim his own emotions.)
Alisha: Sounds like you are really frustrated with George, and pretty upset too. What are you trying to talk to him about? (Reflecting back what Greg has said to her and asking for more information – showing interest.)
Greg: Yes, I am totally frustrated with him! I have told him several times today that I need this order completed no later than tomorrow because a client has been waiting on it and he just keeps blowing me off. (Verifies that Alisha received the message clearly and expanding on his feelings and the reasons behind them.)
Alisha: I’m sorry it has been so frustrating. (Again verifying that she is receiving Greg’s message and validating his feelings.)
Ghita's Coaching Notes:
Rather than offering solutions - like she normally does, Alisha is just offering support and validation to Greg. A common mistake is trying to fix our spouse's problem. Furthermore, when we can't fix things we can get defensive and back off, or things may escalate into fights.
The use of reflective or active listening helps Greg to feel heard and understood. He may not be looking for solutions, so much as needing to be heard. Sometimes solutions come afterwards, and sometimes just being listened to is all a partner needs.
As the conversation continues, each spouse will take turns offering their own message and letting it be verified by their partner before contributing their own message. This form of communication takes more effort and may even take longer because it is “active” and does not allow us to jump forward to think about our own contribution until we have taken the time to verify the message we are receiving. However, the tremendous benefit from using active listening as a communication skill is that it avoids misunderstandings, improves personal responsibility for emotions, allows for clearer messages to be sent and improves empathy.
Greg: I have absolutely had it with George today! Nothing I say to him seems to make a difference to him and I’m tired of feeling like I am talking to a wall! (Expressing emotions, frustration and anger. Using “I” statements to claim his own emotions.)
Alisha: Sounds like you are really frustrated with George, and pretty upset too. What are you trying to talk to him about? (Reflecting back what Greg has said to her and asking for more information – showing interest.)
Greg: Yes, I am totally frustrated with him! I have told him several times today that I need this order completed no later than tomorrow because a client has been waiting on it and he just keeps blowing me off. (Verifies that Alisha received the message clearly and expanding on his feelings and the reasons behind them.)
Alisha: I’m sorry it has been so frustrating. (Again verifying that she is receiving Greg’s message and validating his feelings.)
Ghita's Coaching Notes:
Rather than offering solutions - like she normally does, Alisha is just offering support and validation to Greg. A common mistake is trying to fix our spouse's problem. Furthermore, when we can't fix things we can get defensive and back off, or things may escalate into fights.
The use of reflective or active listening helps Greg to feel heard and understood. He may not be looking for solutions, so much as needing to be heard. Sometimes solutions come afterwards, and sometimes just being listened to is all a partner needs.
As the conversation continues, each spouse will take turns offering their own message and letting it be verified by their partner before contributing their own message. This form of communication takes more effort and may even take longer because it is “active” and does not allow us to jump forward to think about our own contribution until we have taken the time to verify the message we are receiving. However, the tremendous benefit from using active listening as a communication skill is that it avoids misunderstandings, improves personal responsibility for emotions, allows for clearer messages to be sent and improves empathy.
Recommended Reading Pages (Both Partners):
Family Violence Screening: Note Couples Counselling Maybe Unsuccessful for Abusive Relationships: Please do not book this package or Couples Therapy if there is any family violence or one party is in doubt and may not complete the course (No refunds on unused hours). Please book individual sessions instead. *More terms and conditions listed above.
Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. Please secure a babysitter well in advance.
Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. Please secure a babysitter well in advance.
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