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Before Booking Checklist: 20 Points to Consider


  •      Family Violence Screening: Couples Counselling is not Appropriate for Abusive Relationships: If there is any history of domestic violence (including chronic verbal abuse) or DVO's we ask you to book in for Individual Counselling. Couples Counselling requires calmness, commitment and cooperation. See our Ebook: How to Recognise the Signs of Family Violence 

    Compulsory Reading: 'Preparing for Couples Counselling'
  • ​​Sorry, No Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. If you do bring children/ babies with you your appointment may be cancelled and charged for. Please organise a baby-sitter well in advance.
Ideally, you want to find a couples therapist when you’re not in a real crisis. It’s nice in theory, but of course we are all busy. Most of us aren’t going to bother doing preventative work if there’s nothing urgently wrong. Here are 20 things to consider before booking in for couples counselling:
  1. ​Consider whether couples counselling is the best course of action: Should you go together or to individual counselling? (IMPORTANT: If there is family abuse (verbal, emotional, physical, financial, sexual abuse) in your relationship book an individual session. If you are unsure, give Ghita a call.)
  2. Make sure you are both 100% invested in attending therapy together. See Commitment Quiz (Even if you are nervous. See point 16)
  3. What do you want to achieve?: Discuss shared goals for therapy with your partner
  4. Research: Search for a couples counsellor that would suit you. Who is a good fit for you both? Here's how to make sure you find the right fit: Do you want a male or a female therapist? What therapy type do you want?: Gottman Method, Narrative Therapy, Heart versus Ego (Andersen), Emotionally Focused.
  5. Read therapist biographies and watch introductory videos if they have any: A therapist’s professional statement and video can give you a helpful sense of the therapist’s demeanor, and how they speak. A therapist must be friendly, firm, unbiased and interested in getting results. Tip: The best Couples Counsellors are also Family Dispute Mediators
  6. Same Sex Couples: Check to see if your counsellor normally works with same sex couples to avoid any bias
  7. Culture: Do you want someone from a certain cultural background?
  8. What are your location and scheduling requirements? (Ghita Andersen works in Currumbin)
  9. Schedule one initial phone call with providers. Learn about each therapist’s approach to couples counselling and decide which appeals to both of you.
  10. Ask your partner to call the therapist to make sure you both would feel comfortable proceeding with in-person sessions
  11. Ask family for a referral: Who is recommended?
  12. Do you need a babysitter? Is it easier to schedule a Video Session from home? Consider the best times for your family and the time frame of getting a sitter and getting to and fro the appointment. Sorry, No Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. If you do bring children/ babies with you your appointment may be cancelled and charged for. Please organise a baby-sitter well in advance.
  13. Clear your schedule for some time before and after your first appointment if you can. You may wish to keep talking about topics aired in session with your partner afterwards
  14. Decide how much you want to tell your friends and children about your decision to attend therapy
  15. Prepare to talk about your feelings: Expect to get uncomfortable in session discussing personal matters and things you avoid talking about. Aka conflict (This is normal.)
  16. Know that it’s okay to be nervous about your first session! Many couples who go to counselling together are, understandably, anxious about their first appointment. After all, you may be opening up about certain challenges and intimate issues that you and your partner have only ever spoken about to each other. In some cases, you might be sharing things you’ve never even told your partner. It’s completely normal – common, actually – to feel anxious about embarking on this new experience. Don’t worry if one (or both) of you is still hesitant on the day of your apppointment. Unknowns make many people anxious. It can be helpful to simply be patient and stay hopeful that after both partners meet the therapist, some of the anxieties about going to couples counselling will be put at ease. Ghita Therapy is a home based business in Currumbin and there are teas and coffees available and wonderful relaxing views of Currumbin Creek.
  17. Check the fees before booking. Expect to pay between $150 and $400 in Queensland. Some insurance plans will reimburse you for couples therapy costs, but check first. Ghita Therapy fees are $200 per hour for couples. (And no, Medicare does not subsidise relationship Counselling. Note: This is a specialist field.) However, if you have Private Health Insurance, please check with your insurer regarding rebates: The Private Health Insurance Item Number for Couples Therapy is 300. 
  18. What if one of you isn’t sold on therapy to begin with? Hopefully you’re both invested in therapy, but chances are, one of you is going to be more into it than the other. (THIS IS NORMAL!) When one person wants to go more than the other, it’s very important that they let their partner know how much they appreciate their willingness to go. In fact, make it clear that it’s an opportunity for your partner to say what’s on their mind and express how they’re feeling - it’s not just a one-way street. As for drawing out the less-enthusiastic party - remember, a good counsellor is trained to do that. At a certain point, it’s on the therapist. Your goal is to get them in the door, and then we take over. If they are still worried ask them what their concerns are? Do they want to interview a few therapists personally? Do they mind what gender they are? Etc.
  19. How can you tell if a therapist isn’t working? If one of you isn’t feeling comfortable with the direction therapy is going, don’t quit yet - talk to your therapist about it first. A lot of people think that they’re going to hurt their therapist’s feelings if they say they’re uncomfortable in the room, or upset about something the therapist said. But a good therapist should welcome that information, and not get defensive. That kind of communication can actually lead to very fruitful conversations. Of course, some therapists just aren’t going to be the right fit, and that’s okay too - that’s why you should shop around a bit before settling down with one person.
  20. What kinds of results should you expect to see? Even the very best therapist can’t save certain relationships. And sometimes couples come to therapy not even sure that they want their relationship to be saved. All I ask of my clients is their commitment to doing the work. They don’t have to know if they want to stay in the relationship. It’s nice if they’re committed to the other person, but the most important thing is that they’re committed to working on the relationship. Then it’s a win-win. Even if the relationship ultimately doesn’t work, you’re still learning something from the process. You may even learn that there is work that you need to do on your personal growth to make relationships work. Also, be explicit about your goals. I think it’s a good idea, in the first few sessions, to figure out one or two goals that you want to work on as a couple, and then do periodic checks along the way to see where you’re at. Sometimes progress is hard to measure. It may just be that a feeling has shifted, or that there’s been a small change in behaviour. But it’s important to pay attention. Even the slightest pieces of progress is progress. And remember: The last thing your therapist is going to do is judge you. They’re there to help you manage and understand your emotions in a way that can help you both move forward.

In Summary:
High fives to both of you for taking this important step towards repairing your relationship! So long as you're both committed to putting in the work, you’re off to a great start. And because Couples Counselling is a personal process, it is important to remember that there is an initial Free 10 Minute Phone Consultation available to help you decide whether couples counselling would be a helpful for you as a couple. Call Ghita today on 0439 888 070.
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Recommended reading:
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/couples-preparation.html
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/first-session.html

https://www.ghitaandersen.com/couples-quiz.html
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/ebooks-for-couples.html
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  • Home
  • Individual Counselling
    • Anxiety and Stress Counselling >
      • ​Free Relaxation Audio
    • Depression Counselling
    • Grief and Loss Counselling
    • LGBT Counselling
    • Men's Counselling
    • Online and Phone Counselling
    • PTSD, Abuse & Trauma Counselling >
      • Hypnotherapy
      • Neuro Linguistic Programming
      • Time Line Therapy
    • Teen Counselling >
      • Art Therapy for Teens
    • Walk and Talk Counselling
    • Women's Counselling
  • Art Therapy
  • Anger Management
  • Couples Counselling
    • Before First Session Reading >
      • Before Booking Checklist
      • Groundrules: How to Prepare for Couples Counselling
      • First Session - What to Expect
    • Methods and Ebooks >
      • Couples Commitment Quiz
      • Methods >
        • Gottman Method
        • Heart Versus Ego
        • Narrative Therapy
      • Straight Talk Ebooks for Couples
    • Pre-Marriage Counselling
    • Same Sex Couples Counselling
    • Special Packages >
      • 3 Step (Gottman) Package
      • Pre-Marriage Counselling Preparation Course
  • Life Coaching
    • NLP
  • NLP
    • Time Line Therapy
  • Hypnotherapy
    • Time Line Therapy
  • Family Mediation
    • Family Dispute Mediation
    • FAQ Mediation
    • Mediation Between Family Members
    • Section ​60i Certificates
    • The Mediation Process - Step by Step.
  • About
    • About Ghita Andersen
    • About Kathie Halse
    • Ghita's Blog
    • Social Media >
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      • Facebook
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      • Leave a Google Review
      • SoundCloud
      • YouTube Channel
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    • 24 Hour Cancellation Policy
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    • Covid Safe
    • Frequently Asked Questions
  • Fees
    • Concessions
    • Fees and Payments
    • Gift Vouchers
    • Specials >
      • 3 Step Couples Gottman Package
      • Pre-Marriage Counselling Course
  • Forms
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