Checklist: 20 Points to Consider Before Booking

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Before Booking Checklist: 20 Points to Consider

Ideally, you want to find a couples therapist when you’re not in a real crisis. It’s nice in theory, but of course we are all busy. Most of us aren’t going to bother doing preventative work if there’s nothing urgently wrong. Here are 20 things to consider before booking in for couples counselling:

Consider whether couples counselling is the best course of action: Should you go together or to individual counselling? (IMPORTANT: If there is any family violence (verbal, emotional, bullying, physical, financial, sexual abuse or any DVOs) in your relationship it is safer for all concerned to book individual sessions.)
Make sure you are both 100% invested in attending therapy together. Even if you are nervous. See point 16. Commitment Quiz
What do you want to achieve?: Discuss shared goals for therapy with your partner
Research: Search for a couples counsellor that would suit you. Who is a good fit for you both? Here's how to make sure you find the right fit: Do you want a male or a female therapist? What type of therapy are you looking for?
Read therapist biographies and watch introductory videos if they have any: A therapist’s professional statement and video can give you a helpful sense of the therapist’s demeanor, and how they speak. A therapist must be friendly, firm, unbiased and interested in getting results. Tip: The best Couples Counsellors are also Family Dispute Mediators. Psychologists are not necessarily trained in couples therapy.
Same Sex Couples: Check to see if your counsellor normally works with same sex couples to avoid any bias
Culture: Do you want someone from a certain cultural background?
What are your location and scheduling requirements? (Ghita Andersen works in Currumbin). Please note that Ghita offers telehealth sessions via Skype, Messenger and Whatsapp. And also Mobile Sessions in Currumbin, Palm Beach, Tugan and Elanora (*Extra charge - book via phone).
Schedule one initial phone call with the therapist. Learn about each therapist’s approach to couples counselling and decide which appeals to both of you
Ask your partner to call or pop in to see the therapist to make sure you both would feel comfortable proceeding with sessions
Ask friends for a referral: Have your friends successfully used a couples therapist? Who is recommended?
Do you need a babysitter? Is it easier to schedule a Video Session or a Mobile Session? Consider the best times for your family and the time frame of getting a sitter and getting to and from the appointment. Sorry, No Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN CLINIC SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. Please organise a baby-sitter well in advance.
Clear your schedule for some time before and after your first appointment if you can. You may wish to keep talking about topics aired in session with your partner afterwards
Decide how much you want to tell your friends, family and children about your decision to attend therapy. (Consider that many Couples' clients are referred by family, so maybe consider telling a family member you trust.)
Prepare to talk about your feelings: Expect to get uncomfortable in session discussing personal matters and things you avoid talking about. Aka conflict (This is normal.)
Know that it’s okay to be nervous about your first session! Many couples who go to counselling together are, understandably, anxious about their first appointment. After all, you may be opening up about certain challenges and intimate issues that you and your partner have only ever spoken about to each other. In some cases, you might be sharing things you’ve never even told your partner. It’s completely normal – common, actually – to feel anxious about embarking on this new experience. Don’t worry if one (or both) of you is still hesitant on the day of your apppointment. Unknowns make many people anxious. It can be helpful to simply be patient and stay hopeful that after both partners meet the therapist, some of the anxieties about going to couples counselling will be put at ease. Ghita Therapy is a home based business in Currumbin and there are teas and coffees available and wonderful relaxing views of Currumbin Creek.
Check the fees before booking. Expect to pay between $150 and $400 in Queensland. Ghita Therapy fees are $200 per hour for couples. (Alas, Medicare does not subsidise Relationship Counselling. Note: This is a specialist field and most psychologists are not trained in couples counselling.) Health Funds: All our online bookings received an
automatic email invoice/ receipt so that you don't have to ask for one. Rebates may be available for members of Medibank, Bupa, Police Health, St Luke’s, CUA Health, Phoenix Health Fund and Emergency Services. However, as things change so often please check with your provider before booking. We do not have any particular registrations with Health Funds. Many private funds rebate Couples Counselling (Item #300) List. Therefore it is worth checking with your provider.
What if one of you isn’t sure about therapy to begin with? Hopefully you’re both invested in therapy, but chances are, one of you is going to be more into it than the other. (THIS IS NORMAL!) When one person wants to go more than the other, it’s very important that they let their partner know how much they appreciate their willingness to go. In fact, make it clear that it’s an opportunity for your partner to say what’s on their mind and express how they’re feeling - it’s not just a one-way street. As for drawing out the less-enthusiastic party - remember, a good counsellor is trained to do that. At a certain point, it’s on the therapist. Your goal is to get them in the door, and then we take over. If they are still worried ask them what their concerns are? Do they want to interview a few therapists personally? Do they mind what gender they are? Etc.
How can you tell if a therapist isn’t working? If one of you isn’t feeling comfortable with the direction therapy is going, don’t quit yet - talk to your therapist about it first. A lot of people think that they’re going to hurt their therapist’s feelings if they say they’re uncomfortable in the room, or upset about something the therapist said. But a good therapist should welcome that information, and not get defensive. That kind of communication can actually lead to very fruitful conversations. Of course, some therapists just aren’t going to be the right fit, and that’s okay too - that’s why you should shop around a bit before settling down with one person.
What kinds of results should you expect to see? Even the very best therapist can’t save certain relationships. And sometimes couples come to therapy not even sure that they want their relationship to be saved. All I ask of my clients is their commitment to doing the work. They don’t have to know if they want to stay in the relationship. It’s nice if they’re committed to the other person, but the most important thing is that they’re committed to working on the relationship. Then it’s a win-win. Even if the relationship ultimately doesn’t work, you’re still learning something from the process. You may even learn that there is work that you need to do on your personal growth to make relationships work. Also, be explicit about your goals. I think it’s a good idea, in the first few sessions, to figure out one or two goals that you want to work on as a couple, and then do periodic checks along the way to see where you’re at. Sometimes progress is hard to measure. It may just be that a feeling has shifted, or that there’s been a small change in behaviour. But it’s important to pay attention. Even the slightest pieces of progress is progress. And remember: The last thing your therapist is going to do is judge you. They’re there to help you manage and understand your emotions in a way that can help you both move forward.

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In Summary:
High fives to both of you for taking this important step towards repairing your relationship! So long as you're both committed to putting in the work, you’re off to a great start. Because Couples Counselling is a personal process, it is important to remember that there is an initial free 10 minute phone consultation available.

Don't be afraid to reach out and ask questions. Call me today at Ghita Therapy Counselling Gold Coast on 0439 888 070, or alternatively, check availability and book easily online 24 hours on the booking tab below.

Recommended Reading:
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/couples-preparation.html
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/toxic-relationships.html
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/first-session.html
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/couples-quiz.html
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/ebooks-for-couples.html
https://www.ghitaandersen.com/mobile-service.html

Family Violence Screening: Couples Counselling may not be appropriate for abusive relationships: If there is any history of abuse, including chronic verbal abuse, emotional, financial, physical abuse, bullying, neglect and coercion or DVO's we ask that you talk to Ghita prior to booking. Couples Counselling requires calmness, commitment and cooperation and we value our reputation. Couples Counselling and Toxic Relationships
Sorry, No Children: Please understand that professional therapists DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN IN SESSIONS for the reasons of disruption to the therapeutic process, damage to persons and property, public liability insurance limitations and second floor locations. If you do bring children/ babies with you your appointment may be cancelled and charged for. Please organise a baby-sitter well in advance or book a Telehealth session.