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​★★★★★ Testimonial: "I searched for counsellors on Google and I chose Ghita because she looked friendly and easy to talk to. For the sake of my marriage, I am glad that I did." - Jaime, Robina 

Not all practitioners use the same methods in their approach to therapy. When choosing a couples counsellor, it can be useful to understand the different types of methods that exist. All approaches can be effective, however, one may be more appealing or more suitable for you and your partner, depending on your situation.

​One such form is the Gottman Method. Developed in the 1980s by Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Swartz-Gottman, the Gottman approach is underpinned by nearly 40 years of research. In particular, the Gottmans systematically observed 130 couples in their ‘Love Lab.’ This research eventually led to the development of Gottman’s six qualities of a relationship that predict separation.
They are:
  • Harsh Startups -Discussions begin with criticism and/or sarcasm.
  • The Four Horseman – Criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling exist in the relationship.
  • Flooding – Negativity is expressed suddenly, shell shocking the other party.
  • Negative Body Language – e.g Poor eye contact and/or arms crossed.
  • Failed Repair Attempts – Little effort is made to de-escalate tension.
  • Bad Memories – Greater focus on bad memories than happy memories.
The Gottmans also developed what is known as the Sound Relationship House. This identifies the nine components of a healthy relationship, and consists of:
  • Commitment
  • Trust
  • Managing conflict
  • Making life dreams come true
  • Creating shared meaning
  • Building love maps
  • Sharing fondness and admiration
  • Turning towards and not away from each other
  • Positive perspective

Ghita uses Gottman techniques to help couples to identify which of these components their relationship already has, and which need strengthening and development. One example of a Gottman style therapeutic intervention is a conflict analysis. This involves the couple reviewing a recent argument. Ghita guides the couple by reflecting the elements of the Sound Relationship House back to them, identifying the strengths and weaknesses in their communication, and suggesting healthier and more effective alternatives to resolving conflict.

The overall goals of Gottman-based approach to therapy is to assist couples in achieving a greater sense of understanding, respect, awareness and empathy towards each other. In doing so, couples experience an increase in intimacy, affection and interpersonal growth.
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    • Individual Counselling >
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      • Limiting Beliefs Counselling
      • Men's Depression Counselling
      • Post Natal Depression
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        • Free Relaxation Audio
      • Teenage Counselling
      • Top 10 Reasons for Counselling on Gold Coast
      • Women's Counselling
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      • Methods >
        • Heart Versus Ego Couples Counselling
        • Gottman Marriage Counselling >
          • Gottman Couples Package
        • Narrative Therapy Couples Counselling
        • Pre-Marital Counselling
        • Same Sex Couples Counselling
      • Recommended Reading >
        • Ebooks for Couples
        • First Session Info & Quiz
        • Is Couples Counselling Right for You?
  • NLP
  • Mediation
    • Family Dispute Resolution
    • Mediation Between Family Members
  • About
    • About Ghita
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    • Instagram
    • Shop >
      • Ghita's Books
      • Gift Vouchers
      • Homewares
    • Testimonials
  • FAQ
    • Cancellation Policy
    • Client Confidentiality
    • FAQ
    • Mobile Service
    • Online and Phone Counselling
  • Fees
    • Concessions
    • Fees and Payments
    • Specials >
      • 3for2 Deal
      • Gottman Couples Package
  • Contact
    • Contact
    • Intake Form