Gottman Method Marriage Therapy
★★★★★ 5 Star Google Review: Marriage Counselling: 3 Step Package 2023:
Ghita provided real strategies that can be implemented to prevent conflict and more empathy within our relationships. We were able to be truthful and honest within ourselves from better self reflection and then she gave us the tools to be able to communicate our needs effectively. We both learnt how to actively listen to one another and remember the other person's needs are different. Ghita was absolutely warm and welcoming, would definitely recommend her intensive 3 Step Program, it has saved our marriage. - Nicole Eggleton (Coomera).
Not all practitioners use the same methods in their approach to Couples Counselling. When choosing a couples counsellor, it can be useful to understand the different types of methods that exist. All approaches can be effective, however, one may be more appealing or more suitable for you and your partner, depending on your situation.
At Ghita Therapy, we offer the Gottman Method of Marriage Therapy. Developed in the 1980s by Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Swartz-Gottman, the Gottman approach is underpinned by nearly 40 years of research. In particular, the Gottmans systematically observed 130 couples in their ‘Love Lab.’ This research eventually led to the development of Gottman’s six qualities of a relationship that predict separation.
They are:
The Gottmans also developed what is known as the Sound Relationship House.
This identifies the nine components of a healthy relationship, which consists of:
Gold Coast Counsellor Ghita Andersen uses Gottman techniques to help couples to identify which of these components their relationship already has, and which areas need strengthening and development. One example of a Gottman style therapeutic intervention is a conflict analysis. This involves the couple reviewing a recent argument. Ghita guides the couple by reflecting the elements of the Sound Relationship House back to them: Unpacking the issues, identifying the strengths and weaknesses in their communication, and suggesting healthier and more effective alternatives to resolving conflict.
Excellent for Communication and Intimacy
The overall goals of Gottman-based approach to therapy is to assist couples in achieving a greater sense of understanding, respect, awareness and empathy towards each other. In doing so, couples experience an increase in intimacy, affection and interpersonal growth.
Try our Couples Intensive (2 Hours).
How Much Have You Invested in Your Relationship?
It takes a lot of courage to book in for Couples Counselling, and we applaud that, but it may be the best investment you ever make in your relationship or family. If you are serious about getting marriage/ couples counselling please read our happy stories on our Reviews and Testimonials page...
So, before you book with anyone else, do yourself a favour and have a quick, no obligation chat with Ghita. Please feel free to text Ghita for a Free 10 Minute Call-Back on 0439 888 070.
At Ghita Therapy, we offer the Gottman Method of Marriage Therapy. Developed in the 1980s by Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Swartz-Gottman, the Gottman approach is underpinned by nearly 40 years of research. In particular, the Gottmans systematically observed 130 couples in their ‘Love Lab.’ This research eventually led to the development of Gottman’s six qualities of a relationship that predict separation.
They are:
- Harsh Startups -Discussions begin with criticism and/or sarcasm.
- The Four Horseman – Criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling exist in the relationship.
- Flooding – Negativity is expressed suddenly, shell shocking the other party.
- Negative Body Language – e.g Poor eye contact and/or arms crossed.
- Failed Repair Attempts – Little effort is made to de-escalate tension.
- Bad Memories – Greater focus on bad memories than happy memories.
The Gottmans also developed what is known as the Sound Relationship House.
This identifies the nine components of a healthy relationship, which consists of:
- Commitment
- Trust
- Managing conflict
- Making life dreams come true
- Creating shared meaning
- Building love maps
- Sharing fondness and admiration
- Turning towards and not away from each other
- Positive perspective
Gold Coast Counsellor Ghita Andersen uses Gottman techniques to help couples to identify which of these components their relationship already has, and which areas need strengthening and development. One example of a Gottman style therapeutic intervention is a conflict analysis. This involves the couple reviewing a recent argument. Ghita guides the couple by reflecting the elements of the Sound Relationship House back to them: Unpacking the issues, identifying the strengths and weaknesses in their communication, and suggesting healthier and more effective alternatives to resolving conflict.
Excellent for Communication and Intimacy
The overall goals of Gottman-based approach to therapy is to assist couples in achieving a greater sense of understanding, respect, awareness and empathy towards each other. In doing so, couples experience an increase in intimacy, affection and interpersonal growth.
Try our Couples Intensive (2 Hours).
How Much Have You Invested in Your Relationship?
It takes a lot of courage to book in for Couples Counselling, and we applaud that, but it may be the best investment you ever make in your relationship or family. If you are serious about getting marriage/ couples counselling please read our happy stories on our Reviews and Testimonials page...
So, before you book with anyone else, do yourself a favour and have a quick, no obligation chat with Ghita. Please feel free to text Ghita for a Free 10 Minute Call-Back on 0439 888 070.
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Best Gottman Couples and Marriage Counsellor on the Gold Coast
Best Gottman Couples and Marriage Counsellor on the Gold Coast