Couples Commitment Quiz (Gottman)
Commitment is Critical
Commitment is one of the “weight-bearing walls” of Dr. John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House. It’s about demonstrating through your words and actions that you are in the relationship for better or for worse, and that you can count on each other. Commitment is critical regardless of your relationship status, whether you’re dating, cohabiting, or married. Without commitment, couples begin to nurture resentment for what they think is missing in their relationship instead of nurturing gratitude for what they have.
“Commitment is about choice. And it’s not just choosing your partner. It’s about choosing the relationship, day after day.” - Ghita
The Gottman 7 Out of 10 Commitment Rule
If you would like help with your love relationship, but you are not living with your partner, you may be better off having individual counselling to talk things out. According to the Gottman Marriage Method, your commitment level needs to be at least 7/10. If you are unsure of your situation try the Tough Question Quiz below to discover your commitment level...
Commitment is one of the “weight-bearing walls” of Dr. John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House. It’s about demonstrating through your words and actions that you are in the relationship for better or for worse, and that you can count on each other. Commitment is critical regardless of your relationship status, whether you’re dating, cohabiting, or married. Without commitment, couples begin to nurture resentment for what they think is missing in their relationship instead of nurturing gratitude for what they have.
“Commitment is about choice. And it’s not just choosing your partner. It’s about choosing the relationship, day after day.” - Ghita
The Gottman 7 Out of 10 Commitment Rule
If you would like help with your love relationship, but you are not living with your partner, you may be better off having individual counselling to talk things out. According to the Gottman Marriage Method, your commitment level needs to be at least 7/10. If you are unsure of your situation try the Tough Question Quiz below to discover your commitment level...
Tough Question QUIZ:
Asking the right questions of yourself and your partner, helps to uncover the causes beneath issues. Scale your answer from 1 - 10.
Scoring: 1-5: No or not so important; 5-10: Yes or very important.
Answers:
If you score mostly low (under 7) on these questions, couples counselling may not be the best method.
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Asking the right questions of yourself and your partner, helps to uncover the causes beneath issues. Scale your answer from 1 - 10.
Scoring: 1-5: No or not so important; 5-10: Yes or very important.
- I share deeply personal information about myself with my spouse. (Score: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
- I find myself thinking about my spouse during the day.
- Because of my commitment to my spouse, I would not let others come between us.
- I receive considerable emotional support from my spouse.
- My relationship with my spouse is very romantic.
- I expect my love for my spouse to last for the rest of my life.
- I communicate well with my spouse.
- I legitimately expect to treat my partner as well as, or better than, they treat me.
- In a strong disagreement, I really believe that my partner is entitled to their opinion.
- Under duress, I have the courage and tenacity to seek my partner’s reality and the courage to express my reality when the stakes are high.
- Is it important to let your partner know what you think, feel, and are concerned about? (Even if they really can’t appreciate what they don’t understand.)
- How much do you care about the price your partner will have to pay? (Everything has a price and we always pay for it in some way.) Is it low or high?
Answers:
If you score mostly low (under 7) on these questions, couples counselling may not be the best method.
How Much Have You Invested in Your Relationship?
If you are considering Couples Counselling, it may be the best investment you ever make in your relationship. Please read our happy stories on our Reviews and Testimonials page...
So, before you book with anyone else, do yourself a favour and have a quick, no obligation chat with Ghita. Please feel free to text Ghita for a Free 10 Minute Call-Back on 0439 888 070.
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