Self-Esteem and The Pot

Self-esteem is the ability to value oneself and to treat oneself with dignity, love, and reality.

Here is an awesome story about a pot by Virginia Satir (Family Therapist):

When I was a little girl, I lived on a farm in Wisconsin. On the back porch was a huge black iron pot with rounded sides, standing on 3 legs. My mother used it to make soap. When farm workers came for harvest, it was filled with stew. At other times, my father used it to carry manure for the garden. We called it the 3 'S' pot: (Soap, Stew, Shit 😄)

Anyone who wanted to use it had to ask the questions: What is the pot full of? And how full is it?

So now, when working with people, I ask them about their pot. (Self-worth).

As with my old family pot, the questions are: Is my self-worth negative or positive at this point, and how much of it is there?

Integrity, honesty, responsibility, compassion, and competence flow from a person with a pot full of good stuff.

Mistrust, victimhood, loneliness, isolation, fear, defeat, addictions, worthlessness, and defensiveness come from low pot feelings.

But feeling low is not the same as having a low pot. A person with high self-esteem can have a bad day.

A low pot will often make people behave as if those undesirable feelings did not exist. It takes high self-worth to acknowledge those feelings.

( A great metaphor to use when talking about feelings with someone who is uncomfortable talking about feelings. Yes? )
Xx
Ghita

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