'Ghita was absolutely warm and welcoming, would definitely recommend her intensive session to begin with. It has saved our marriage.' - Nicole
A Marriage in Crisis
Are you struggling with loop arguments that never seem to get resolved? Are you both talking, but no one is listening? Do you feel lonely, sad or frustrated in your relationship? Ghita is here to help...
Challenging Behaviours When Things Get Hard
Often, couples come into counselling blaming one another for their difficulties. (It’s not unusual for couples to start arguing in front of the counsellor.) Subsequently, couples counsellors are not passive. Ghita will intervene to focus the session on insight and action. For you and your partner, this often involves letting go of fixed perspectives and stepping back to see the process of how you interact.
Recommended Sessions:
Importantly, Couples counselling is not a place to avoid emotions - so it is not a place for someone with anger issues or addictions. Ghita is there to help you to explore your feelings and to find different perspectives to make better decisions on what you are able and willing to change. It is guaranteed that you will be challenged and triggered at some point.
When Will Couples Counselling Not Work?
Couples therapy usually doesn’t work when there is:
Challenging Behaviours When Things Get Hard
Often, couples come into counselling blaming one another for their difficulties. (It’s not unusual for couples to start arguing in front of the counsellor.) Subsequently, couples counsellors are not passive. Ghita will intervene to focus the session on insight and action. For you and your partner, this often involves letting go of fixed perspectives and stepping back to see the process of how you interact.
Recommended Sessions:
- Assessment Phase: Minimum of two hours for a diagnostic and possibly individual sessions
- Treatment Phase: Intensive long sessions are recommended weekly to fortnightly until the relationship is showing improvement
- Maintenance & Relapse Prevention Phase: As required. Many couples will check-in twice a year to prevent sliding back into old patterns.
Importantly, Couples counselling is not a place to avoid emotions - so it is not a place for someone with anger issues or addictions. Ghita is there to help you to explore your feelings and to find different perspectives to make better decisions on what you are able and willing to change. It is guaranteed that you will be challenged and triggered at some point.
When Will Couples Counselling Not Work?
Couples therapy usually doesn’t work when there is:
- A history of abuse or domestic violence between partners (can include emotional, physical, financial, serious verbal or sexual abuse). If your relationship is abusive or one party has an addiction, then we recommend Individual Counselling instead. Is my Relationship Toxic?
- Individual trauma from childhood creating triggers. Active or untreated mental illness or addiction with one (or both) partners. (Recommend individual therapy before couples therapy)
- Active Affair: One or both parties are engaged in infidelity and lack the motivation to give those outside relationships up for the good of the primary relationship.
- One or both parties have already made the decision to separate or divorce.
Options for a Marriage in Crisis:
Regular Sessions: Book in for two hour sessions and make them consecutive until you have worked through your issues.
Fast Tracked Therapy:
Package Four: Intensive One Day Couples in Crisis Retreat
Couples counselling crisis retreats are intensive therapy sessions that help couples rebuild and repair their relationships. These retreats can help couples reduce distress, improve communication, and increase relationship satisfaction.
Package Five: Intensive Two Day Couples in Crisis Workshop
A two day retreat is a DEEP DIVE into the factors causing conflict or disharmony in communication etc. These retreats can help couples reduce distress, improve communication, and increase relationship satisfaction.
5 Ways to Help Your Marriage Using Individual Counselling:
If your partner refuses to attend marriage counselling sessions, you can still attend individual sessions. It's more challenging to mend a relationship this way, but you can benefit by learning more about your own reactions and behaviour.
Endings and Closure:
Sometimes, as a result of couples counselling clients decide to end their relationship. However, if your counsellor recommends that you separate, please understand that they don’t say it lightly. It is not something that they will say unless they are sure that it is more damaging to continue. If you feel that there is an error, you are entitled to a second opinion and are welcome to try another service.
50 Years of Marriage and Relationship Research
Marriage or Couples Counselling is a process based on half a century of research, that has been proven, time and again, to have been a lifesaver for many relationships. Renowned for being one of the top Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast, Ghita has combined a selection of the best approaches to help couples to successfully manage conflict, deepen friendship, intimacy and emotional connection and create a rich sense of shared meaning together.
What Sets Ghita Apart From Other Couples Counsellors?
Ghita Andersen is one of the Top 10 Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast - according to Global Woman Leader Magazine. Ghita has helped thousands of couples over the last decade she has been working on the coast. Ghita helps Australian couples working interstate and overseas via online sessions.
If you have any questions for Ghita before committing to a session or a package, please feel free to request a Free 10 Minute Call-Back via text or phone today on 0439 888 070.
More information:
Regular Sessions: Book in for two hour sessions and make them consecutive until you have worked through your issues.
Fast Tracked Therapy:
Package Four: Intensive One Day Couples in Crisis Retreat
Couples counselling crisis retreats are intensive therapy sessions that help couples rebuild and repair their relationships. These retreats can help couples reduce distress, improve communication, and increase relationship satisfaction.
Package Five: Intensive Two Day Couples in Crisis Workshop
A two day retreat is a DEEP DIVE into the factors causing conflict or disharmony in communication etc. These retreats can help couples reduce distress, improve communication, and increase relationship satisfaction.
5 Ways to Help Your Marriage Using Individual Counselling:
If your partner refuses to attend marriage counselling sessions, you can still attend individual sessions. It's more challenging to mend a relationship this way, but you can benefit by learning more about your own reactions and behaviour.
- Be Honest About Your Own Emotions in order to comprehend why you feel the way you feel and how you can self-regulate/ gain control over those emotions.
- Examine ANGER ISSUES, Mistrust, Childhood Trauma, Self-Esteem Issues that are triggered by your partner. How can you work on yourself to improve your interactions with others, instead of allowing your inner-critic to sabotage your relationships. Would you like to try individual counselling or NLP?
- Communication Style: How is your communication style hampering your relationship? Could you deliver your phrases better? Do you state your needs in a positive or negative way?
- Understand your Partner's Love Language and your own. This goes a long way to understand how to love each other and get brownie points. [Book: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman]
- Expectations of Partner Roles: Is your expectation of your partner based on your parent's traditional roles? Is it reasonable? It is always a good idea to examine and be honest about what you expect of your partner (in terms of spouse or parental roles) and then compare these to what is normal in the modern era.
Endings and Closure:
Sometimes, as a result of couples counselling clients decide to end their relationship. However, if your counsellor recommends that you separate, please understand that they don’t say it lightly. It is not something that they will say unless they are sure that it is more damaging to continue. If you feel that there is an error, you are entitled to a second opinion and are welcome to try another service.
50 Years of Marriage and Relationship Research
Marriage or Couples Counselling is a process based on half a century of research, that has been proven, time and again, to have been a lifesaver for many relationships. Renowned for being one of the top Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast, Ghita has combined a selection of the best approaches to help couples to successfully manage conflict, deepen friendship, intimacy and emotional connection and create a rich sense of shared meaning together.
What Sets Ghita Apart From Other Couples Counsellors?
Ghita Andersen is one of the Top 10 Couples Counsellors on the Gold Coast - according to Global Woman Leader Magazine. Ghita has helped thousands of couples over the last decade she has been working on the coast. Ghita helps Australian couples working interstate and overseas via online sessions.
If you have any questions for Ghita before committing to a session or a package, please feel free to request a Free 10 Minute Call-Back via text or phone today on 0439 888 070.
More information:
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