Every week, I have clients come in to counselling who say that their partners spend too much time on their devices or mobile phones. Phones and computers are known to be addictive and we have become very used to using them to both organise and amuse ourselves 24/7. It is not uncommon for people to feel that their phones are a private device however and to be annoyed that their spouse looks at their social media posts, messages and emails. But is it okay to look through your partner’s phone?
In general, it is an invasion of of person’s privacy. While it is true that there should not be anything on your phone that hints of cheating, or secrecy, it clearly demonstrates mistrust if you make a habit of looking at another person’s phone (or computer).
Questions to Ask Yourself if You Think it is Your Right:
Let’s have a chat about your insecurities, either one-on-one or in a couples session. It is good to normalise what other couples/ people do.