THE CURRENCY OF RELATIONSHIPS

The gender ‘CURRENCY’ of Relationships is what motivates the other partner to remain in a relationship. It offers an idea for how to repair conflict and maintain a connection. When the currency is absent it has often been replaced with ‘CONTEMPT.’

Each Partner's Relationship Needs Based on Gender:
Women: Beloved: A ‘Special’ Damsel in Distress
Needs: SAFETY

• Protection
• Communication
• Commitment
• Intimacy

Men: Hero: Dragon Slayer
Needs: ADMIRATION

• Praise
• Competency
• Passion
• Supportive of Dreams

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Examples:

1. When a woman treats a man as incompetent, this hurts him deeply and he sees this as contempt - which is close to hatred and the opposite of love
2. When a man does not make a woman feel special, heard and/ or safe, the woman will often use a lack of currency to complain, instinctively knowing that this will affect his self-esteem or identity (punishment). However, this has the opposite effect of getting her needs met because the man will usually pull away and offer less communication, affection, help, and protection.

TIP: Use a person’s gender currency combined with their love language for a bonus effect:
There are 5 Love Languages:
Words, Quality Time, Touch, Acts of Service, and Gifts.
 
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