One thing I see a lot in couples on the verge of a separation is complaints about unequal workload for household chores. This causes a lot of resentment in parents (often the wife). Sometimes though, it is not too late to turn it around.
Here is a reality check for both parents.
If you blame your partner for expecting you to be supermum (or superdad), but you have - for all intents and purposes, made yourself indispensable for years, ask yourself how that happened?
Some advice for parents:
Balance the chores between husband and wife at home so it is just, equal and fair. Negotiate often. Sort it quickly. Get your kids to do chores.
Have a weekly date night.
If you need emotional connection to get in the mood for sex, then turn yourself on and turn the social media off.
Put your partnership (marriage) first, above the kids.
Don't over-extend yourself and put yourselves last, and then get resentful when you feel last on everyone's priorities.
Put yourself first. There are no medals for putting yourself last.
It is hard to be intimate and to patch things up when you are in resentment mode.
If you need personal time. Take it. Martyrs don't get sympathy from society.
Go to the gym. Ask people for help.
Have a makeover to feel sexy.
Turn phones off between 6 and 9pm! This is family time.
See a counsellor when you have arguments that cycle. Don't wait until contempt lives in your house.
Remember, a mother or father who does everything for their kids but neglects their spouse, is not in actuality a good parent.
Invest in your marriage. Don't think the grass is greener, because it isn't. And the statistics say that 65% of second relationships fail because of the problems with the first wife, or step-kids.
Something to think about