The Andersen Method
The Couples' Relationship Toolbox®
★★★★★ Testimonial Marriage Counselling: I was convinced that we were separating and it was too late. I was of the mindset to leave, but one hour turned it around for us. This session was very different. Ghita nailed our problem and made us negotiate. After many years of arguing over the same thing, she showed us how to do deals. We negotiated our personal time and even had a contingency plan for when things went wrong. We both agree this session was nothing like what we expected. Thank you Ghita. - J & A Tovey. (Hope Island)
Retreats Offer a Complimentary Couples Workbook
Rapid, Relationship Repair:
Some common feedback that Ghita has received over the years is that most couples are time poor and don't have the schedule, nor the patience to do a Gottman or Emotionally Focused type of therapy course. Couples have said that they need FAST RESULTS and EASY TOOLS that they can use in-between sessions, so that they are not left to deal with difficulties for a week or two. This can be very damaging to couples...
The Couple's Relationship Toolbox® (The Andersen Method) is a method that takes all the best couples research together with the techniques Ghita has honed, after a decade of being a counsellor, and combined them in an holistic mix. You will find your viewpoint changes and you will understand each other better. Ghita offers a toolbox of skills to use in your relationship: There is no floundering between sessions, because you will be using these EASY TO UNDERSTAND TOOLS from DAY ONE And, you will wonder why you didn't learn these simple skills from other counsellors...
Benefits:
✔️ SIGNIFICANT CHANGES IN HOW YOU COMMUNICATE
✔️ FOCUSED ON THE MARRIAGE/ RELATIONSHIP (not each other)
✔️ AWARENESS OF NEGATIVE PATTERNS
✔️ THE BEST OF THE BEST MARRIAGE RESEARCH
✔️ SKILLS GATHERED IN YOUR TOOLBOX (Day One)
✔️ EXERCISES, VIDEOS, WORKSHEETS & HOMEWORK
The Relationship Toolbox Method ®
Other Therapy Methods:
Ghita will teach and encourage you to become a better listeners and to better articulate your needs. This will also help you to gain a greater understanding of each other’s needs and concerns, and remove the elements which cause the spiral of negative communication (the circular argument).
Some common feedback that Ghita has received over the years is that most couples are time poor and don't have the schedule, nor the patience to do a Gottman or Emotionally Focused type of therapy course. Couples have said that they need FAST RESULTS and EASY TOOLS that they can use in-between sessions, so that they are not left to deal with difficulties for a week or two. This can be very damaging to couples...
The Couple's Relationship Toolbox® (The Andersen Method) is a method that takes all the best couples research together with the techniques Ghita has honed, after a decade of being a counsellor, and combined them in an holistic mix. You will find your viewpoint changes and you will understand each other better. Ghita offers a toolbox of skills to use in your relationship: There is no floundering between sessions, because you will be using these EASY TO UNDERSTAND TOOLS from DAY ONE And, you will wonder why you didn't learn these simple skills from other counsellors...
Benefits:
✔️ SIGNIFICANT CHANGES IN HOW YOU COMMUNICATE
✔️ FOCUSED ON THE MARRIAGE/ RELATIONSHIP (not each other)
✔️ AWARENESS OF NEGATIVE PATTERNS
✔️ THE BEST OF THE BEST MARRIAGE RESEARCH
✔️ SKILLS GATHERED IN YOUR TOOLBOX (Day One)
✔️ EXERCISES, VIDEOS, WORKSHEETS & HOMEWORK
The Relationship Toolbox Method ®
- De-Escalating Conflict: Family Dispute Resolution methods.
- Codewords for Couples: (The Amazing Pineapple) Making Your Partner Understand Your State Instantly: And The Response Required.
- Vent versus Fix: How to know what to listen for
- Healthy vs Unhealthy Complaining: Fair Fighting | Reframing Delivery
- The Reconnection Hour
- Gender Currencies: The Wiring of Men & Women | Role Expectations | Our Expectations
- Genograms: Why your family of origin matters in this relationship dynamic.
- Monkey Chatter: How to handle your own internal relationship saboteur? Reframing your Internal Language with NLP
- The Marriage Jar (1 & 2): The Marriage Jar Concept
- Hypnotherapy: The use of Metaphors and Symbolism to secure a visual understanding of concepts. Pattern Interrupt: Shock and Awe. A method to get you off the fence and to work as a team.
- Toddler Talk Exercise
- Core Wounds, Values & Triggers: What are you bringing into the relationship baggage-wise? (Individual sessions)
- The 3 Minute Eye Gazing Exercise
- The Appreciation Exercise: 10 Things I appreciate About My Partner
- Active / Reflective Listening: How to Complain Constructively, How to be Heard/ Listen Actively. 'I' Phrases: This is one of the most effective communication techniques ever taught to couples
- Family Dispute Resolution (Australia, UK & NZ): Objective Rather Than Subjective (Removing Emotions). Words that cause conflict and how to avoid them.
- NLP: Relationships and Language: Words which cause conflict, Situational rather than Personal, Core Wounds (baggage), Reframing Mindset. Schemas and Mental Filters. The Language Influence: How to Talk to Your Spouse and How to Stop Treating Your Partner Like the Enemy
- The Pre-Marital Checklist/ Renegotiating Marriage Contracts: Agreements about roles, responsibilities, household chores, finances, etc. | What have we forgotten to negotiate? What do I need from my partner. What is reasonable?
- Intimacy and Connection Workshops: Eye Gazing. Body Mirroring, Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic
Other Therapy Methods:
- Gottman Concepts (USA): The 4 Horsemen, Love Maps, Leaning Towards & 50 Years of Research
- Narrative Therapy (Michael White and David Epston, NZ) - Externalising Problems to be Problems to be Worked on.
- Family Therapy: Virginia Satir (USA): The Dynamics of Family Systems: Genograms
- Esther Perel Concepts (Belgium) - Infidelity (Why it Happens), What sets off the Nervous System?, The Wiring and Motivations of Men and Women
- Gestalt Therapy: Body Langauge and Unsaid Issues.
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: Activating Event, Belief (automatic thought), Consequence: The emotional thought or behaviour (often a pattern). Reality checking overreactions and learning to control them, etc.
- Byron Katie Method (USA): Reality Checking: Is it true? Is it universally true? How to check your viewpoint
- Attachment Styles: Are you or your partner insecure due to attachment style? How to work with these to create safety.
- 5 Love Languages (Gary Chapman, USA) - You and Your Partner's Top Love Languages
Ghita will teach and encourage you to become a better listeners and to better articulate your needs. This will also help you to gain a greater understanding of each other’s needs and concerns, and remove the elements which cause the spiral of negative communication (the circular argument).
★★★★★ 5 Star Google Review: One Day Retreat (Relationship Toolbox 5.5 hours) 2026
Our session with Ghita was exactly what we needed. She was calm, direct and incredibly intuitive. She didn’t allow us to stay stuck in blame or avoidance, but also didn’t let us bypass the hard truths.
For the first time in a long while, we both felt heard in the same room. She helped us identify the real issues underneath the conflict and gave us practical direction moving forward.
It was confronting at times — but in the best possible way. We left feeling hopeful and clearer about what needs to change. Highly recommend for couples who are serious about growth. - Sheree (Coomera)
★★★★★ Google Review (2024) 'What a turn around!! My wife and I came to Ghita with very different communication skills. We were feeling EXTREMELY defeated in our marriage and were desperately seeking direction. After just 5 sessions our communication skills are in a place we didn’t know were possible. It’s been about a month since our sessions and our marriage is still becoming stronger and stronger every day. 10 out of 10 recommend!' - Jason Eichenburger (Northern Rivers)
★★★★★ 5 Star Google Review: Marriage Counselling (Andersen Method) Package 2025: 'Working with Ghita Anderson has been one of the most transformative and empowering experiences. We have completed both couples counselling and individual NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) therapy. This has helped me shift long-standing patterns and reconnect with a deep sense of clarity, confidence, and joy.
In our couples sessions, Ghita created a warm, safe space where we could both feel heard and supported. Her guidance helped us communicate more honestly, understand each other’s needs without judgment, and rebuild our connection from a place of empathy and trust. Our relationship now feels so much more grounded and open—we’re truly working as a team again.
Individually, Ghita used NLP therapy to help me identify and reframe deep-seated self-limiting beliefs that had been running in the background for years. With her support, I was able to shift those patterns in ways that felt natural and lasting. I now approach life with more self-belief, purpose, and ease. The change has been profound—not only internally, but in how I show up in the world.
What’s been especially meaningful is how others have noticed the shift. Friends, colleagues, and even strangers have commented on how happy and light I seem. I couldn’t recommend Ghita more highly.' - Alisa - Palm Beach
★★★★★ Testimonial: Couples Counselling Package 2023:
'I thought my marriage was over. Truthfully, I was ready to give up. Things were so bad. Since the five week program, we have nothing to fight about. The other day my husband used the code word 'Pineapple' to share something about his childhood: I stopped and listened without judgement - and I was fully present. Normally, I would half listen, avoid feelings and get defensive when he got frustrated. That would result in a whole day of ill feelings and sulking on both sides. The conflict would start with such small things. This has really changed how we see each other's triggers and motivations. We have never been so close. We don't take things so personally. We are stronger and we make time for each other.' - Suzie van de Schraaf (Currumbin)
Your Relationship Will Become Strong and Resilient
The overall goals of the Andersen Method is to assist couples in achieving an awareness and empathy towards each other and a good understanding and respect for the other partner's contributions to the relationship. In practicing this method, couples experience an increase in intimacy, affection and interpersonal growth.
How Much Have You Invested in Your Relationship?
It takes a lot of courage to book in for Couples Counselling, and we applaud that, but it may be the best investment you ever make in your relationship or family. If you are serious about getting marriage/ couples counselling please read our happy stories on our Reviews page...
What Sets Ghita Apart From Other Couples Counsellors?
A relationship counsellor for over a decade, Ghita often hears people say, ‘I have been asking to go to therapy for ages, but my partner is unsure.’ Importantly, she understands that Couples Therapy is very 'personal' and it does make people feel vulnerable and uncomfortable; afterall opening up about your deepest feelings to a stranger isn’t the easiest thing to do. But Ghita's relationship counselling style encourages a non-blaming environment.
✔️ Top Rated Couples Counsellor on the Gold Coast
✔️ Ghita is a registered Family Dispute Mediator
If you want to improve your relationship and you are interested in learning relationship skills based on 50 years of research, you may need an experienced family counsellor and coach.
Text Ghita for a Complimentary 10 Minute Call-Back on 0439 888 070.
The overall goals of the Andersen Method is to assist couples in achieving an awareness and empathy towards each other and a good understanding and respect for the other partner's contributions to the relationship. In practicing this method, couples experience an increase in intimacy, affection and interpersonal growth.
How Much Have You Invested in Your Relationship?
It takes a lot of courage to book in for Couples Counselling, and we applaud that, but it may be the best investment you ever make in your relationship or family. If you are serious about getting marriage/ couples counselling please read our happy stories on our Reviews page...
What Sets Ghita Apart From Other Couples Counsellors?
A relationship counsellor for over a decade, Ghita often hears people say, ‘I have been asking to go to therapy for ages, but my partner is unsure.’ Importantly, she understands that Couples Therapy is very 'personal' and it does make people feel vulnerable and uncomfortable; afterall opening up about your deepest feelings to a stranger isn’t the easiest thing to do. But Ghita's relationship counselling style encourages a non-blaming environment.
✔️ Top Rated Couples Counsellor on the Gold Coast
✔️ Ghita is a registered Family Dispute Mediator
If you want to improve your relationship and you are interested in learning relationship skills based on 50 years of research, you may need an experienced family counsellor and coach.
Text Ghita for a Complimentary 10 Minute Call-Back on 0439 888 070.
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